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How To Make A First Date A Second Date

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Everyone can agree that first dates are stressful. You want to make a good first impression so that a first date turns into a second date and possibly more. You want to come across as smart, funny, intelligent and a real catch without seeming overzealous, over eager or pushy. You want everything to be perfect and because of this, you stress over where you should go, what you should wear, what you're going to say and who is going to pay for the date. To top it off you want to play things right so that you can end the date with a kiss goodnight leaving your date wanting more. It's actually simple to get that second date as long as you check out our tips below.

Tip #1: Dress Up For Your Date

You want to make a good first impression. You want to show that you're interested in your date and putting some effort into how you look is important. Far too many singles don't put enough effort into how they look for their first date. Looking good and showing that you care about yourself will make it so that your date wants to spend more time with you PLUS it will make you more confident and therefore more desirable. Being confident and looking good are sure to make it so that your date wants to see you again. Better yet, be sure to guarantee that second date by adding some feminine touches if you're a gal such as makeup, heels, and doing your hair. If you're a single guy then take a few minutes to prime yourself with cologne, fresh breath, and nice wrinkle free clothes. Remember that although no one likes to admit it because it sounds shallow, attraction and looks are important when you first start to date someone, without that it's unlikely that you're going to land that second date.

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Tip #2: Act As If There Is Going To Be A Second Date

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You've spent time getting to know each other by sending messages back and forth and chatting over the phone. Now that you're actually on your date you want to make sure that there WILL be a second one. That means that you should be confident enough to show who you really are and to be yourself. But don't overshare on the first date. You'll want to answer questions about yourself and share when you're asked but it's important that you don't monopolize the entire conversation. Make a point to steer the conversation back to your date. Ask questions, actually, listen to the answers and respond to what they're saying with the information you've learned from what has been told to you. Take in what they have to say and let it sink in so that you can use the information at a future date to really show your interest.

Tip #3: Read Your Dates Actions

When you're on your date, it's key that you look for nonverbal cues about how things are going. If your date looks uncomfortable with what you're talking about, change the subject. If it looks like they are not enjoying themselves suggest a change in scenery by going somewhere else. Most of all if it looks like your date wants to leave altogether don't stop them, there's nothing that you will be able to do to make this situation better anyways. But on the upside of a good date, if things are going well make sure that you're having a great time too. Finally, make sure that you aren't sending the wrong message, your message should be that you're happy to be with your date and that they are the only thing that matters at the time. Being able to sense when he or she is comfortable or not during your date and reacting to it will show that you care and this is what is going to turn your first date into a second one.

Tip #4: Talk About Future Dates

If things are going well, and the two of you seem to be hitting it off, don't be afraid to talk about seeing each other again and future dates to do so. If they talk about something that they really enjoy such as hiking or they let you know what their favorite food is, suggest that you go for a hike together for your next date or search out the best restaurant that serves that particular food to enjoy together. There's no rule that says you have to wait 3 days before you connect again to plan another date. If you feel like things are going well, then go ahead and make plans to see each other again. Be sure that you're not forcing something that isn't meant to be though. The last thing that you want is to trap your date into the next one if they're not feeling it.

Tip #5: End The First Date When You Need To

If things are going well on your first date it's best for you to end the date at an appropriate time so that you're not dragging it out and making it uncomfortable. You want to leave it so that your date is left wanting more. Go your separate ways and keep somethings to talk about for your next date. It's better to have your date be eager to see you again than to have someone who just can't seem to get away from you at the end of the night.

Tip #6: How To Properly End A First Date

The end of any date can be awkward, but the end of the first date can be exceptionally so. Do you shake hands? Hug? Kiss? Or something more? Make a joke and laugh off any part of your goodbyes that are uncomfortable, this lets your date know that you're just as nervous as they are. The best rule is to take your cue from them. If your date suggests that the two of you have dinner later in the week or catch dinner and a show together next week, and you like the idea, don't hesitate to agree to the plan right away.

Tip #7: Don't Wait Too Long For The Follow Up

Just because you've heard of the three date rule, doesn't mean you have to follow it. If you like the person that you went out on a date with, then let them know right away. Follow up with a cute text or phone call. Let your date know that you were thinking about them and that you're looking forward to your next date. You can also send a quick email to thank your date letting them know that you had a great time together, that you enjoyed their company and that you are excited to see them again soon.

Tip #8: Remember What You Talked About

Remembering what it was that you've talked about and what your date answered shows that you're interested in what it is that they have to say. A good way to show that you're listening to what is being said is to put your phone away for the entire date. Don't just put your phone on the table with the screen facing down, actually put it away and out of sight. If if you really need to look at it, excuse yourself and check it when you're in the restroom. It's also important to ask follow-up questions about the different things that you've talked about. Another good idea is to suggest doing something on a future date that you know your date is going to like because they've already mentioned it to you. Be sure not to mention that you want to go skiing for example if your date has already told you that they hate skiing and cold weather. This would definitely not make a good impression at all and will likely make your date unhappy since they've already told you that they don't like these things. If you love to do something that they don't that's okay. You don't have to like everything that they do and vice versa.

Tip #9: Make Solid Next Date Plans

It's important that when you're suggesting the next date you make some solid plans. Don't be vague or unsure, if this is something that you want then be specific. Pick an activity, an actual date to do said activity and a physical place to go for the date. Being wishy-washy is confusing and often the date tends to never happen or it falls through because neither of you knows what's actually going on. Don't just suggest that you grab dinner one night next week, pick a date, a restaurant and a time and stick to it. If you have to reschedule or change the date it's okay as long as your date understands, if not you need to make every effort to stick to your original plan so that you continue to build trust in your new relationship.

Tip #10: Be Funny

Laughter is always the best medicine no matter what situation you're in. It helps to put people at ease and makes an awkward first date more fun and far less stressful. Most singles say that a sense of humor is one of their top 'must haves' when they are searching for someone to start a relationship with. 75 percent of women and 65 percent of men believe that having a good sense of humor is what will score date number two. So, pull out all the stops if you're truly interested in your date and show them that you can be funny and laugh at yourself. If this is something that you're not good at, ask a friend for help before your actual date.

Tip #11: Don't Talk About Past Failed Relationships

Don't talk about your past relationships. There's nothing that's more of a turn-off than talking about your past relationships that haven't worked out. Singles today get it, we've all had relationships that haven't worked out, instead of talking about them and airing your dirty laundry on the first date, make light of it or change the subject altogether so that you're focusing on the two of you rather than anything negative that you can't change anyways. If the person you're dating wants to know more about your dating history save it for another time.

Tip #12: Keep Your Sexual History To Yourself

We all have a past and that includes a sexual past, but it's best to keep it to yourself on the first (and perhaps much longer) date. If you start a discussion about how many people your date has slept with it's likely that you'll hear information that you don't want to hear and vice versa. Singles often don't like the answers that they hear and because of this feeling get hurt quickly and easily. If this is the case the likelihood of a second date is almost zero. So do whatever you have to do to steer clear of talking about your past conquests when you first start dating someone new.

Conclusion

Turning a first date into a second one can be easy as long as you don't put too many expectations on what your first date should be. It's important to have a good time, so you'll want to be sure to follow the tips that are listed above. Remember that everyone is looking for their soulmate, someone who truly gets who they are and what they want in life. You can't always be sure if someone is right for you after date number one, that's why you want to at least secure date number two so that you can really start to explore who the other person is and so that they can do the same of you. The best thing that you can do is to slow down and really be in the date. Take all other distractions in your life and devote a couple of hours to this new person to see if you can turn a first date into a second one.

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How To Make A First Date A Second Date - AdultHookup

Everyone can agree that first dates are stressful. You want to make a good first impression so that a first date turns into a second date and possibly more.

How To Make A First Date A Second Date - AdultHookup